Do you like me? Do you really, really like me?

Feeling Katty
Feeling Katty

This is a test.

When I was a fresh new blogger, a blogger who had just fallen off the turnip truck, I took a trip up to cloud 9 whenever somebody “liked” a post.

Then I started noticing a few things:

1) Certain people liked every post, but never commented.

2) These same people seemed to like every post of every blogger that I follow.

3) These same people also show up as having “liked” just about every random post I click on in the Reader.

How can these people “like” so many posts? Are they truly reading them? And what about the “Followers” who never make a comment? When I visit their blogs, I see that they have an enormous number of Followers, but they are selling something, or their writing is sub-par.

Call me cynical, but could it be that they are Following simply to gain Followers? Could it be that they want to jack up their numbers for some sort of validation?

Sometimes I click “like” to showΒ I was here. I read this, but I don’t have anything profound to add at the moment.

But I’m trying to change. I’m trying to eke out a comment for every post I read, even if I think my comment is mundane or adds nothing to the conversation, because I want you to know that I’m truly reading and appreciating what you have taken the time and energy to express.

I want to be part of a community here. I didn’t realize that blogging on WordPress would create a new set of relationships, but it’s starting to, and I love it.

I dare you, click “Like.” Then I’ll know you’re not reading.

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Are you feeling Katty too?

I dare you,Β comment.Β  Then I’ll know that you are really here.

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45 thoughts on “Do you like me? Do you really, really like me?

  1. I follow a lot of travel blogs whose stock and trade are beautiful photos of destinations without much text. I frequently will “like” their post, to show appreciation for their photography, but don’t have anything to add except “great photo!”, so I might as well just like the post and leave it at that. But on blogs where most of it is text, I can see how that would seem like a cop out.

  2. I don’t think its true, my experience has been different….You liked my one and only post and you even left a comment and I have no followers except my wife. Maybe I’m a dreamer or did I just fall off the turnip truck myself?

    1. It’s definitely a new skill set!
      I love comments, and a mix of comments and “likes” from people is awesome.
      It’s the bots who like everything that drive me crazy. You can just tell they’re not reading anything.

  3. Yes, I really do like you.=) I am not a consistent blog follower, but when I read it, I always enjoy it. Although I am also not consistent about clicking the like button. But I never click it in vain, I can promise you I only use the like button in sincerity.

    1. Thanks Eileen!
      Glad you enjoy it πŸ™‚ If you want to read EVERYTHING…I’m going to stop posting it to my personal FB page and shift it all to the FB page for The Life of Kylie, so that might be an easier way to follow, or you can subscribe to get it in your email box πŸ™‚

  4. I’m a “like”r, and many times I don’t even do that, but I swear I read everything. You could quiz me on your blog and I would ace it! πŸ™‚ (PS, the catify yourself thing was amazing!)

    1. Really? Wow! I had no idea! THANK YOU.
      My friend did the catify thing on FB the other night. We might work on a video of her as a cat batting at string, too.

      I loved your blogger type quiz. I’m an ENFP on the Myers Briggs and was wondering how much that lined up. You must have put so much work into that quiz!

  5. Well, the comments are flowing here, Katty…shall I call you Katty today?…I try to comment, but can’t do it all the time. I think whenever I read a post about blogging, per se, there’s high interest. We can all relate to this, and I guess we just wonder about it. Sometimes, I actually don’t have anything to add, but did, indeed like the post! Although, personally, I don’t mind a quick comment in that it doesn’t need to be profound.

    1. Exactly!
      I didn’t get much sleep last night, so yes, I’m feeling quite Katty today.
      I don’t mind the real “likes.” In fact I like them, and I click “like” on other people’s blogs all the time without leaving a comment. I often feel like I have nothing to add, because they’ve already said it all so well!
      It’s just the people who are clearly spamming that irritate me.
      I’m not usually so judgmental πŸ™‚

  6. Maybe it’s the new year, but there seems to be a lot of soul-searching (blog-searching?) posts like this the past week or so, mine included. Anyway, I think it’s fine to like and not comment, especially if I have nothing in particular to add. So, yeah, like = thanks good job. And if I don’t like it, I don’t “like” it. Coming to you via Rutabaga, by the way. Sharing the like!

  7. Thank you for commenting on my blog yesterday πŸ™‚ I haven’t experienced this strange “like” phenomenon, but it just sounds like a waste. My blog is for me. It has some awesome stuff on it, but I’m not judging my self-worth from it!

    1. Good!
      I’m glad you’ve been spared the spammers, and it’s also great that you’re able to keep your blog in the “just for me” realm.
      Thanks for stopping by, Melissa.

  8. Those chronic fake likers are the absolute bane of my existence. They actually make me inordinately mad because I feel like they are corrupting the whole honky-dory kumbaya experience I enjoy having on WordPress. So I totally get where you’re coming from! And I like you. I really, really like you.

    1. Thanks–I really, really like you too, Emily!
      I totally hear you. I just scratch my head, and think, Really? The blogger with the hamburger icon likes my vegan muffins? The one selling posters likes the one about my friend’s death and has nothing to say? It makes me grumpy. Well, in fact, it makes me Katty!

    1. Me too!
      I think it’s fine when people comment sometimes, “like” sometimes, do both sometimes, read and do neither sometimes, skim, ignore. Let’s face it, we don’t all have time to read everything, even if we’d like to. It’s just the Gravatars I see ALL OVER WordPress that bug me. It’s so transparently self-promoting.

  9. I almost didn’t comment just to mess with you :-). But as someone said above, I follow a lot of blogs so I don’t have time to comment on all of them especially when I take random blogging hiatuses. I like to hit the “like” button to let the bloggers know that “hey, I checked out your post and someone out there is reading your blog”. Yeah, I don’t read every single word of every single post of every single blog I follow (who has time for that?), but I sorta do, if that makes sense. I like your blog because it often makes me laugh. Keep up the good work!

    1. Thanks!
      I’m glad you commented. I hit “like” a lot for the same reason. I think it’s fine when it’s genuine. And you’re absolutely right–we don’t have time to read everything, or even skim everything.
      It’s the chronic “likers who like everything but never comment anywhere” that bother me.
      I’m glad to hear you’re reading and laughing. Thanks for your encouragement πŸ™‚

  10. I feel the same way, but to add some irony here, I klicked like before I read further than the preview in the Reader πŸ˜›

    1. Ha! I should’ve included a category for extra special people who consistently “like” and comment and then comment some more. I love the back-and-forth.
      I have a response in mind for your post… forthcoming!

  11. I agree. I soon realized that I don’t have hundreds of followers, because I myself don’t follow hundreds of blogs. And I don’t want followers who follow for numbers alone. It’s about content, People! But the ones that I do follow, I do…I swear I do. And I really, really like you, Kylie! πŸ™‚

    1. Can you imagine what that would be like… nothing but sitting and reading and commenting all day long! It already feels like I’m starting to do that. How in the world do people with full-time jobs do this???

      You are a true, authentic, wonderful human being.

  12. I try to comment on most of the posts I read, but I follow so many blogs, I can’t always do that, and that’s when a click of the ‘like’ button is nice, especially among the bloggers I follow who post daily. It can be hard for me to keep up with that, but I at least like to let them know I was there.

    But I’ve seen ‘like’s on my post within seconds of it going live, and there’s no way anyone could have read it that quickly. It makes me smile as I understand these are the ubiquitous ‘likers.’ I guess I can always count on them. πŸ˜‰

    1. Ha!
      I see you around a lot, but I you’re in a completely different category. It’s very clear that you are reading, thinking, engaging! You are *so* not spam.

      It’s kind of like intermittent reinforcement: some likes, some comments, some lurking. The combination is actually motivating.

      I guess it’s the lurkers who never show themselves at all and the chronic likers who must just be opening topics and hitting “like, like, like” on every blog in the Reader that chap my hide.

      I’m feeling Katty today–probably because of very little sleep last night.

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