Trifecta: The New Normal?

“Why is the sky blue?”

Was she seriously asking me this?

Usually, the relentless interrogations cover thornier ground: Why did you have to get divorced? Can you make yourself not have a baby? Why are my step-brothers here less often than I am? 

And once: Do you poop when you have a baby?

I attempt to give vague answers, trying to protect her, distract her. She’s seven. She’s asked difficult questions since she was three: Why don’t I get to be at my daddy’s house as often as your house? 

Why? Why? Why?

For a year or so, I was able to keep my emotions in check. I knew she couldn’t grasp the details of the divorce, and I didn’t want her to. I knew certain things are too scary for a child so young.

Why did you honk at that car?

But she grinds me down. She doesn’t accept my age-approriate responses. She asks repeatedly until I tell the truth. The godawful truth…or some mangled version of it that leads to more questions.

Will I not have any boyfriends if I’m smart?

The never-ending questions.

At one point, we instigated a “two-time rule.” If she got “stuck in a loop,” I’d give her two more times to ask and then we were done.

The two-time rule was especially handy when she had been fixated on ways to die. It freed us both.

Yet that day, she asked an easy one. A childhood classic. Why is the sky blue? 

“Well, you know when we spray the hose, and sometimes you see a rainbow? The blue of the sky is like that part of the rainbow. And sometimes, like at sunset, we get to see the other colors.”

“Oh,” she said. She got it. She didn’t ask any more questions–just recited the colors of the rainbow.

I got to be a normal mom, having a normal conversation.

Trifecta Writing Challenge Grasp
Trifecta Writing Challenge: Week 90 “Grasp”

Here’s the Trifecta the weekly prompt.

GRASP (verb)
1: to take or seize eagerly

2: to clasp or embrace especially with the fingers or arms
Remember:
  • Your response must be between 33 and 333 words.
  • You must use the 3rd definition of the given word in your post.
  • The word itself needs to be included in your response.
  • You may not use a variation of the word; it needs to be exactly as stated above.
  • Only one entry per writer.
  • If your post doesn’t meet our requirements, please leave your link in the comments section, not in the linkz.
  • Trifecta is open to everyone. Please join us.

This week’s challenge is community judged. You can read entries and vote here:

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10 thoughts on “Trifecta: The New Normal?

  1. This is great! The mental exhaustion brought on by inquisitive children… I love this in particular: “But she grinds me down. She doesn’t accept my age-approriate responses.” Great piece Kylie!

  2. Despite the worries shared, I don’t doubt Mom will be able to handle any questions. It looks like she has a good handle on things when it comes to her daughter.
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  3. Dealing with the endless questions can by trying. My oldest was like that. So inquisitive. But it’s the sign of an active mind and a great way for them to gain knowledge, so we continue in the endless Q&A. And then take a nap…

  4. I love the two-time rule…I must remember to use this. My 5 year old has always asked tough questions…I have too realized just how much she needs to understand things in her own way and it’s not easy to get to that place where I can explain it perfectly for her. I’ve gone to books, art and videos sometimes. Sometimes that really helps if you can find the right resource. 🙂

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