About Last Night #NaBloPoMo

cute baby

Confession: Last night, I did something I abhor.

A one night stand. A quickie. It was just so down and dirty, I can’t look myself in the mirror.

Yes, that’s right. I confess: I followed a bunch of blogs without reading or commenting on them.


After wandering to the Recommended Blogs section on WordPress, I followed, and followed, and followed some more.

Family blogs. Humor blogs. Photography blogs. Staff Picks. NaBloPoMo blogs.

So many blogs.

At least some of them weren’t complete strangers. I followed several where WordPress claims I’ve liked posts. I’m sorry if I don’t remember you. What can I say? I get around.

What a Double-Standard

While I get excited to see that little follow button light up, I also get irritated when it’s from bloggers who don’t seem to have read anything here. Are they following just to get followed back? The nerve! What can I say, I’m a glass-half-empty kinda gal.

The rate has increased lately, and now I know why.

They’re click-happy. Just like me.

Hopefully, someday in an alternate universe, where days last 36 and a half hours, I’ll get around to reading every single of the hundred or so blogs I just followed.

What have I done??? Will I regret this in the morning?

What are your “Following” best practices?

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43 thoughts on “About Last Night #NaBloPoMo

  1. Oh Kylie. You wicked girl 🙂

    I’m a good boy. I always try to find out who I’m blogging with. It doesn’t always work. But I always look for fellow bloggers who can put more than five words together without swearing!

    Great blog. I’m looking forward to reading more.


    1. I agree! Swearing should be reserved for special occasions, like my post on the Sandy Hook online game teen acting the massacre.
      Thanks for reading and commenting. I will mosey over to your blog…when I get a chance 😉

  2. I’ll add someone if I’ve seen them around other blogs, and if I think I’ll enjoy reading what they’ll write. I added about four new people a few months back, but then I had to unfollow them, not because I wasn’t enjoying reading them, but because I couldn’t keep up with four new bloggers. I hate having to unfollow people, but there are only so many hours in the day.

    1. I continue to be amazed by the people I see commenting all over the place. How do they do it?? It’s fun to see the back and forth comments and the relationships between people. That’s one of the ways I find blogs to follow too. But again, I feel bad because I can’t possibly get around to visit everybody, especially now that my son is not in daycare anymore. I’m trying really hard not to be on screens all the time so I can give him attention, and you know, parent!!

      1. I find I end up commenting a lot more than I am posting on my own blog – evidenced by posting last week and it being my first post since the end of August. But I only follow about 20 or 30 blogs, some of whom don’t post so often. I too get emailed about new posts, which is fine most of the time, and fortunately, not everyone I follow is doing NaBloPoMo so I’m not getting swamped with reading.

        Parenting your kids is way more important than reading people’s blogs, and anyone who takes offence at that needs to perhaps consider their own personal priorities.

              1. Looking at the time you posted – or rather the time that gmail says it received the email notifcation of your comment, I should say – I was definitely asleep. Or maybe I’d just woken up feeling a bit chilly and was going back to sleep, it’s difficult to know, as I didn’t look at the time when I did wake up…

                Information I’m sure you were in desperate need of!! 😉

  3. I try to read as many posts of blogs I follow. I don’t follow back just because someone has started to follow my blog. I will visit the blog, read a few posts. But if I don’t really enjoy them, I don’t follow. Have I unfollow end? Yes. When the blog eases to be relevant or it’s same-old, same-old. Or when the posts tend towards negativity all the time, or are just not respectful.

    1. That’s a good strategy. You’re making me think of a recipe for baking a good blog: 3 parts humor, 1 part reflection/memoir, a pinch of social commentary, and a dash of fiction.

      Thanks for reading and commenting. I will check out your blog.

  4. What Ross said.
    Also, I get e-mail notifications when someone follows – and because it shows a few recommended posts from that blogger, I will check it out if I find one or more of titles or topics interesting. I may even follow if I actually intend to read the blog – and with some blogs, I don’t follow but occasionally drop in to read a post or few. And I try to visit back everyone who comments – except for the spammers, obviously.
    But I don’t blame you for following recommended blogs. I mean, IT IS recommended that you follow them. You just got to call them in the morning (or whenever days expand to 36.5 hours).

  5. I am also new on this site. I am following a lot of people. I cannot read all the blogs at once. The people who follow me, I put their posts in a “Read Soon” file. And the folks that don’t follow me, I put in a “Reading File”. I read the “Read Soon” blogs first, then go to the “Reading File” and start reading those blogs. It takes me awhile to read them all, but I will eventually get them all read. I don’t follow people just so they will follow me. I honestly follow them because I want to read their blogs.

    1. Thanks for your comment. That sounds like a great system.
      I think most of us who are just here for the joy of writing follow blogs because we want to read them. There are so many amazing, funny, smart writers!

  6. I’ve done the follow-happy thing at least twice, maybe 3 times, and found some great stuff that way. But, like Ross, I also cull. I like blindfollowing way better than culling. 🙂

    1. That’s the Dino way. I’ve been trying out your strategy of staying up til the wee small hours if the night and drinking caffeine and it’s not sustainable for me. Naptime is calling…

  7. I’m new here, and I always look at who follows me before I make that ‘big decision’ to follow back. It does get overwhelming keeping up after so long. : )

    1. It really does. I like the sense of friendship and support that can develop among bloggers, but it’s also sensory overload. At least the blogs I followed last night are all highly recommended so they will diversity my Reader. It kinda feels like checking out a stack of books from the library, not sure whether you’re going to like or read them all…but the covers look good.

  8. I appreciate when someone takes the time to leave a comment on my blog, I typically “follow” anyone who clicks to follow me, but, have learned that some of these so-called followers are just marketing themselves and never come back to read anything I’ve written, so, I un-follow them.

    I make sure that I visit everyone’s blogs who follow me, I read their latest post, click ‘like’ and try to leave a comment. It’s a commitment and takes up time, but, I honestly enjoy my blogging friends… at least the ones that reciprocate. 😉

    1. Definitely. That’s a good approach. I used to follow back each follower but then realized they were basically spam. I think Ross Murray once called them ‘sploggers’. Now that I’m doing more writing challenges, I’ve found so many wonderful new blogs and follow them since we are part of a community in a sense. I’ve been impressed and inspired by the caliber of writing. Thanks for commenting, Swoosie.

  9. I follow a bunch of blogs. I read them all, I’ve got a lot of free time, and comment when the blogger has really lured me into reading. Who wouldn’t want to hear about quickies?

  10. I agree with what Ross said. I try to only follow those blogs that I’ll read and it’s hard to keep up even with only the ones that I look forward to reading. I don’t follow people back simply because they’ve followed my blog, but I do try to check them all out, especially anybody who comments. I like to comment and interact with my own commenters,if that makes any sense. Oh, and you’re a dirty blog whore. Lol.

    1. What! Are you slut-shaming me?!

      I usually have the same strategy as you but feel so neglectful for not having the time to get around and read everybody’s blogs. So, I just play hard to get and wait for people to visit me here 😉

  11. I’m not following anything I’m not likely to read; I can barely keep up with the ones I follow now. In fact, I’m due for a cull. If someone follows me and comments, I will check their site. If it’s a blind follow, I’m unlikely to. It’s funny you bring this up because this morning I was looking at my stats (never a good idea). At the end of January of this year, I hit 100 followers. By the end of this month or so, I’m probably going to hit 1000. From then until now, my daily views have remained virtually unchanged. All this to say: God bless my regulars.

    1. Oh also? Same scenario with my stats. Just hit 1000 WP followers last night. The others are all redundant Facebook and Twitter followers. Seriously, who has the time to be on all those separate platforms????

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